According to the Oxford dictionary, side burns are a side of hair grown by a man down each side of his face in front of his ears. I was born hairy. I am hairy on my legs, hands, everywhere really. I also have side burns. Growing up, I was never really conscious about this. Going back to memory lane though, my perception about my hairiness changed when a friend suggested that I shave not only my legs but also hands in preparation for ‘prom’ night (this was called socials in my high school in Nigeria). In her words, ‘I was too hairy’. So I did. I ended up using veets hair removal cream literally all over my body. It was quite unpleasant, but I did it. However, I made a decision with myself never to use hair removal cream all over my body ever again. Thankfully now, there are more effective ways to remove unwanted hair like waxing and if you want to really splurge and detest hair, laser removal.
I used to be so self conscious of my side burns. I was so consumed with other peoples opinions about it. I mean women are meant to be absolutely hairless right, like have hair only on their head. This is one of women’s unrealistic standard. However, I began embracing it slowly. Discovering gel was a facilitator in the acceptance of my side-burns. Getting compliments about it was the icing on the cake. It’s like people began to admire it after I began to embrace it. I remember having my breakfast with some girls in my A-level school at Canterbury, United Kingdom, when one of them, abruptly stopped eating and said, ‘Joanne your sideburns are sexy’. It felt good to hear. It felt even better because I was slowly beginning to embrace it at this point.
Today, I absolutely love it. I love how I can achieve a more androgynous look with it coupled with my kinky hair or whatever hairstyle I have on. Or how I’m able to slick my side burns with whatever hair I have on. I’m amazed at how far I’ve come with loving myself just the way I am. I have to add that it’s also a confirmation that I am my mum’s daughter because she’s also hairy and has side burns too.. Lol!
You know what they say though, always look at the glass half full and not half empty. I also have a lot of beautiful hair on my head and I wouldn’t want to have it any other way. Embrace whatever perceived flaws you think you have and be amazed at how you’ll slowly but surely begin to love it.
Here’s me and my sideburns.
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